According to Don Miguel Ruiz, an author of The Four Agreements, “Ninety-five percent of the beliefs we have stored in our minds are nothing but lies, and we suffer because we believe all these lies.”
How shocking is that? What are the “lies” you believe, that is not favouring your life? Some of you may not even realize those lies because you’ve believed them so long.
One of the biggest ones I had and lived accordingly for a long time was that I had “huge calves”. Not a big deal, right? Well, it wasn’t to me.
I was once trying to be a competitive horseback rider (many of my colleagues from there are Olympians, so it tells you how serious the stable was). When a beautiful leather boots arrived, I wanted to share my excitements with my coaches. So I tried to wear the new solid boots in front of them. They were so tight that there was no way that my calves were going in smoothly. Some of the coaches laughed at me so hard for me struggling, and I instantly felt the shower of embarrassment and shame. And my brain told me that I was not worthy of becoming a great rider (if I can’t wear those boots). I decided that I was useless. I decided that I do not deserve anything anymore all the sudden. I decided that I deserved the painful laughs from the coaches.
Just like that, I was under the spell. I was only 13.It was the begging of my long journey with eating disorders, weight roller coasters, and low self-esteem. I started adding more “lies”. I thought “I also have fat legs”, “I won’t have a boyfriend because of my legs.”, “He would leave me for another girl because I have fat legs, and I probably deserve it”. A very small event on an ordinary day spelled me for a long time.
Ruiz also says though “By hooking our attention, the word can enter our mind and change a whole belief for better or for worse”. And it did for me, for better. My husband, back then my new boy friend, told me that I had beautiful calves when I was jealously talking about my co-worker’s calves. He sounded so authentically with love, and convinced me that I did. I decided that I believe him and then I gradually was able to accept my calves as parts of my body rather than ugly existence. The power of word broke a heavy spell, and there I started a long journey of healing.
If you are suffering from all those “lies” you believe and wish to break the spell, contact me for an initial consultation.
Hello 2015! Hope you had wonderful holiday seasons and that you are having a happy and strong start of the new year!
Body Karma is shifting its core service from personal training & holistic nutrition consulting to health coaching! That is to help people who struggle with unhealthy eating habits (mainly emotional eating), weight management, and low self-esteem, and destructive thinking (I’ve suffered from them over 20 years, without really realizing them).
I’ve been trained to be a certified health coach at Institute for Integrative Nutrition (IIN), and I would love to assist as many people in need as possible.
At this moment, my initial consultation (45min) is free and can be done from 9:30am(PST) to 2pm(PST) on Mon – Fri (or some evenings and weekends), at a cafe, my office in Sidney, BC, Canada, or online (Skype or LINE call -free of charge!). The purpose of the consultation is to learn about who you are, what you have in your current life, what you have gone through, what might be burdening you, what you would like to achieve, and what is the obstacle(s) to reach your health and life goals.
If you are interested or know anyone who could use this service, contact me below.
All will be confidential (unless it is for teens who might benefit from having parents involved), and can be done in English or Japanese.
I once worked exclusively with women for eating disorders, but I realized that men also had equal pressure toward their food choice, body images and self-esteem to women. According to Haleh Moravej, a senior lecturer in nutritional sciences at Manchester Metropolitan University;
“Eating disorders are not about food but emotions and control. Some people cope with everyday anxiety and disappointments and other stressful issues by restricting or overeating and binge eating.
“Low self-esteem can lead to males being dissatisfied with their bodies and feeling an overwhelming pressure to change their themselves physically.”
Full article is here.
There is no need to be feel ashamed. I have been there, and I always blamed on myself for not being “strong enough” to keep whatever the promises I made with food. I never imagined that I needed to look into my emotions. I never even thought I had an eating disorder and I was very good at hiding it. I can bet that many people around me thought my life was pretty content and I was happy.
If you need someone to talk, you know where to find me. I will listen with no judgement. We can chat over Skype or phone. Here is a first step for you to overcome the challenge you feel hopeless to change.
Email me to schedule a free initial consultation.