According to Don Miguel Ruiz, an author of The Four Agreements, “Ninety-five percent of the beliefs we have stored in our minds are nothing but lies, and we suffer because we believe all these lies.”
How shocking is that? What are the “lies” you believe, that is not favouring your life? Some of you may not even realize those lies because you’ve believed them so long.
One of the biggest ones I had and lived accordingly for a long time was that I had “huge calves”. Not a big deal, right? Well, it wasn’t to me.
I was once trying to be a competitive horseback rider (many of my colleagues from there are Olympians, so it tells you how serious the stable was). When a beautiful leather boots arrived, I wanted to share my excitements with my coaches. So I tried to wear the new solid boots in front of them. They were so tight that there was no way that my calves were going in smoothly. Some of the coaches laughed at me so hard for me struggling, and I instantly felt the shower of embarrassment and shame. And my brain told me that I was not worthy of becoming a great rider (if I can’t wear those boots). I decided that I was useless. I decided that I do not deserve anything anymore all the sudden. I decided that I deserved the painful laughs from the coaches.
Just like that, I was under the spell. I was only 13.It was the begging of my long journey with eating disorders, weight roller coasters, and low self-esteem. I started adding more “lies”. I thought “I also have fat legs”, “I won’t have a boyfriend because of my legs.”, “He would leave me for another girl because I have fat legs, and I probably deserve it”. A very small event on an ordinary day spelled me for a long time.
Ruiz also says though “By hooking our attention, the word can enter our mind and change a whole belief for better or for worse”. And it did for me, for better. My husband, back then my new boy friend, told me that I had beautiful calves when I was jealously talking about my co-worker’s calves. He sounded so authentically with love, and convinced me that I did. I decided that I believe him and then I gradually was able to accept my calves as parts of my body rather than ugly existence. The power of word broke a heavy spell, and there I started a long journey of healing.
If you are suffering from all those “lies” you believe and wish to break the spell, contact me for an initial consultation.
Hello 2015! Hope you had wonderful holiday seasons and that you are having a happy and strong start of the new year!
Body Karma is shifting its core service from personal training & holistic nutrition consulting to health coaching! That is to help people who struggle with unhealthy eating habits (mainly emotional eating), weight management, and low self-esteem, and destructive thinking (I’ve suffered from them over 20 years, without really realizing them).
I’ve been trained to be a certified health coach at Institute for Integrative Nutrition (IIN), and I would love to assist as many people in need as possible.
At this moment, my initial consultation (45min) is free and can be done from 9:30am(PST) to 2pm(PST) on Mon – Fri (or some evenings and weekends), at a cafe, my office in Sidney, BC, Canada, or online (Skype or LINE call -free of charge!). The purpose of the consultation is to learn about who you are, what you have in your current life, what you have gone through, what might be burdening you, what you would like to achieve, and what is the obstacle(s) to reach your health and life goals.
If you are interested or know anyone who could use this service, contact me below.
All will be confidential (unless it is for teens who might benefit from having parents involved), and can be done in English or Japanese.
Have you had a moment that you craved for a taste of chocolate and ended up eating a whole chocolate bar? How did you feel right after? How did your body feel?
Were you disappointed in you for not being able to resist the crave, or not stopping with just one bite? Or, were you ashamed of yourself and decided to punish you by having more junks?
Well, did you know that this could be a sign of a struggle from an eating disorder? I’ve done it so long in the past, but I had never ever thought that I had an “disorder”. Now I know I did and I admit it, I totally had an eating disorder and suffered from some more eating disorders. What I did not know was that I needed look inside of me and heal my soul instead of worrying about the food I ate or clothes I was able to fit in.
So, if you ever have a moment you have an urge to eat something, just listen to your body. First, acknowledge your wisdom of being able to hear what your body was trying to tell you. Be proud of yourself. Instead of feeling guilty of possibly having a chocolate, praise yourself for noticing the need. This is very important.
Then, ask yourself, “What can I eat to meet my body’s needs. Could I have a healthier option? Could I start with a piece of chocolate and switch to a nice soothing warm tea? Will my body and soul be satisfied if I had a banana with some almond butter on it? Maybe a small bowl of plain yogurt with nutrition-loaded berries?”
Be kind to yourself and your body, if not for you, for me, please:)