According to Don Miguel Ruiz, an author of The Four Agreements, “Ninety-five percent of the beliefs we have stored in our minds are nothing but lies, and we suffer because we believe all these lies.”
How shocking is that? What are the “lies” you believe, that is not favouring your life? Some of you may not even realize those lies because you’ve believed them so long.
One of the biggest ones I had and lived accordingly for a long time was that I had “huge calves”. Not a big deal, right? Well, it wasn’t to me.
I was once trying to be a competitive horseback rider (many of my colleagues from there are Olympians, so it tells you how serious the stable was). When a beautiful leather boots arrived, I wanted to share my excitements with my coaches. So I tried to wear the new solid boots in front of them. They were so tight that there was no way that my calves were going in smoothly. Some of the coaches laughed at me so hard for me struggling, and I instantly felt the shower of embarrassment and shame. And my brain told me that I was not worthy of becoming a great rider (if I can’t wear those boots). I decided that I was useless. I decided that I do not deserve anything anymore all the sudden. I decided that I deserved the painful laughs from the coaches.
Just like that, I was under the spell. I was only 13.It was the begging of my long journey with eating disorders, weight roller coasters, and low self-esteem. I started adding more “lies”. I thought “I also have fat legs”, “I won’t have a boyfriend because of my legs.”, “He would leave me for another girl because I have fat legs, and I probably deserve it”. A very small event on an ordinary day spelled me for a long time.
Ruiz also says though “By hooking our attention, the word can enter our mind and change a whole belief for better or for worse”. And it did for me, for better. My husband, back then my new boy friend, told me that I had beautiful calves when I was jealously talking about my co-worker’s calves. He sounded so authentically with love, and convinced me that I did. I decided that I believe him and then I gradually was able to accept my calves as parts of my body rather than ugly existence. The power of word broke a heavy spell, and there I started a long journey of healing.
If you are suffering from all those “lies” you believe and wish to break the spell, contact me for an initial consultation.
Hello 2015! Hope you had wonderful holiday seasons and that you are having a happy and strong start of the new year!
Body Karma is shifting its core service from personal training & holistic nutrition consulting to health coaching! That is to help people who struggle with unhealthy eating habits (mainly emotional eating), weight management, and low self-esteem, and destructive thinking (I’ve suffered from them over 20 years, without really realizing them).
I’ve been trained to be a certified health coach at Institute for Integrative Nutrition (IIN), and I would love to assist as many people in need as possible.
At this moment, my initial consultation (45min) is free and can be done from 9:30am(PST) to 2pm(PST) on Mon – Fri (or some evenings and weekends), at a cafe, my office in Sidney, BC, Canada, or online (Skype or LINE call -free of charge!). The purpose of the consultation is to learn about who you are, what you have in your current life, what you have gone through, what might be burdening you, what you would like to achieve, and what is the obstacle(s) to reach your health and life goals.
If you are interested or know anyone who could use this service, contact me below.
All will be confidential (unless it is for teens who might benefit from having parents involved), and can be done in English or Japanese.
Have you had a moment that you craved for a taste of chocolate and ended up eating a whole chocolate bar? How did you feel right after? How did your body feel?
Were you disappointed in you for not being able to resist the crave, or not stopping with just one bite? Or, were you ashamed of yourself and decided to punish you by having more junks?
Well, did you know that this could be a sign of a struggle from an eating disorder? I’ve done it so long in the past, but I had never ever thought that I had an “disorder”. Now I know I did and I admit it, I totally had an eating disorder and suffered from some more eating disorders. What I did not know was that I needed look inside of me and heal my soul instead of worrying about the food I ate or clothes I was able to fit in.
So, if you ever have a moment you have an urge to eat something, just listen to your body. First, acknowledge your wisdom of being able to hear what your body was trying to tell you. Be proud of yourself. Instead of feeling guilty of possibly having a chocolate, praise yourself for noticing the need. This is very important.
Then, ask yourself, “What can I eat to meet my body’s needs. Could I have a healthier option? Could I start with a piece of chocolate and switch to a nice soothing warm tea? Will my body and soul be satisfied if I had a banana with some almond butter on it? Maybe a small bowl of plain yogurt with nutrition-loaded berries?”
Be kind to yourself and your body, if not for you, for me, please:)
I once worked exclusively with women for eating disorders, but I realized that men also had equal pressure toward their food choice, body images and self-esteem to women. According to Haleh Moravej, a senior lecturer in nutritional sciences at Manchester Metropolitan University;
“Eating disorders are not about food but emotions and control. Some people cope with everyday anxiety and disappointments and other stressful issues by restricting or overeating and binge eating.
“Low self-esteem can lead to males being dissatisfied with their bodies and feeling an overwhelming pressure to change their themselves physically.”
Full article is here.
There is no need to be feel ashamed. I have been there, and I always blamed on myself for not being “strong enough” to keep whatever the promises I made with food. I never imagined that I needed to look into my emotions. I never even thought I had an eating disorder and I was very good at hiding it. I can bet that many people around me thought my life was pretty content and I was happy.
If you need someone to talk, you know where to find me. I will listen with no judgement. We can chat over Skype or phone. Here is a first step for you to overcome the challenge you feel hopeless to change.
Email me to schedule a free initial consultation.
“You can only hold your breath for so long. You can only starve yourself for so long.”
If you have been on a diet and are still on a diet, not reaching where you want to be, here is a great article by Dr. Mark Hyman. On top of his research-based-suggestions, I think we need to change our way of THINKING about a relationship between food and our body before we can make a lifelong change for healthier version of ourselves.
Enjoy and live a happy and healthy life that you deserve!
Have you found yourself being a perfect vegetarian that you are so proud of, then finding yourself eating a piece of steak next day? Because you just had that tiny bite, did you maybe decide to eat the whole cow, thinking, “What the heck, I have fallen off the wagon, I failed again!”. At that moment, we you possibly disappointed with you, and even feeling a guilt of eating the meat? Have you thought about, maybe, it is something to do with you being a perfectionist or controlling?
Compulsive eaters usually do not eat the gigantic amount of food because their body truly need it. They would often eat because their emotions are not in balance or fulfilled. They would eat until they are too full or sick. They would keep eating to puss away the guilt, disappointment or shame perhaps. They would eat to fill in a deep hole inside of their heart.
If you find yourself eating the way that is “out of the rule”, take a deep breath and try to recognize the craving. Allow yourself to acknowledge the need, praise yourself for being aware of what your body wanted. You do not need to feel guilty, but focus on WHY you needed to eat the food. Is it true that you should have avoided the food for all those days? What is your body trying to tell you showing the craving sign? What was the lesson you could learn from it?
BE KIND to yourself instead of being mean to you and feeling guilty for what you ate. Really acknowledge the action you took and try to focus on finding the reason for the craving. Maybe you can also find some alternative food if you really do not wish to eat certain foods.
It is my pleasure and honor to be there for you. I will provide you a safe place for you to really listen to what you need. Feel free to book a free consultation with me. I will welcome you with no judgements.