An effect of being a perfectionist?

Have you found yourself being a perfect vegetarian that you are so proud of, then finding yourself eating a piece of steak next day?  Because you just had that tiny bite, did you maybe decide to eat the whole cow, thinking, “What the heck, I have fallen off the wagon, I failed again!”.  At that moment, we you possibly disappointed with you, and even feeling a guilt of eating the meat?  Have you thought about, maybe, it is something to do with you being a perfectionist or controlling?

Compulsive eaters usually do not eat the gigantic amount of food because their body truly need it. They would often eat because their emotions are not in balance or fulfilled.  They would eat until they are too full or sick.  They would keep eating to puss away the guilt, disappointment or shame perhaps.  They would eat to fill in a deep hole inside of their heart.

If you find yourself eating the way that is “out of the rule”, take a deep breath and try to recognize the craving.  Allow yourself to acknowledge the need, praise yourself for being aware of what your body wanted.  You do not need to feel guilty, but focus on WHY you needed to eat the food.  Is it true that you should have avoided the food for all those days? What is your body trying to tell you showing the craving sign?  What was the lesson you could learn from it?
BE KIND to yourself instead of being mean to you and feeling guilty for what you ate. Really acknowledge the action you took and try to focus on finding the reason for the craving.  Maybe you can also find some alternative food if you really do not wish to eat certain foods.

It is my pleasure and honor to be there for you.  I will provide you a safe place for you to really listen to what you need.  Feel free to book a free consultation with me.  I will welcome you with no judgements.


Diets Don’t Work…then what?

When I used to be on diets (for over 20 years), approaches I took were always “all or nothing”.  With that, I would do well for a few days or a week, thinking I was successful and rocking the world.  Well, then you know how things go.  I would start feeling so stressed, have no energy, extremely irritated with the diet, I would cheat a bit, then a huge guilt would fall on me, and I would consider myself a failure.  That disappointment is so huge, that I would feel hopeless, I would binge, and gain back all the weight I’ve lost, if not weighing more than ever.  Not only it affected my weight, it deeply affected psychologically every time I ‘failed’.  My self esteem went lower and lower.  I became extremely self conscious about how people thought about me or looked at me.  I could go on and on for this vicious cycle, or I should just call ‘an eating disorder (which I never thought that I was suffering from it)’ but I am happy to say that I am in control with food, not that food is controlling my life.

Well, what did I do?  I needed some professional supporters, who could REALLY listen to me with NO JUDGEMENTS, being present with me, how and what I thought about myself, and carefully paid attention to my traumatic events I had not been able to share with anyone before because I was too ashamed of myself.  And this is what I am trained to be at this moment at Institute for Integrative Nutrition (IIN).

Also, it helped me to have recognized that everything should be in moderation, not being hard on myself, and I started to apply “90/10 Theory (a flexible approach to eating that strives for eating healthy foods 90% of the time and allowing 10% of the time to eat whatever you feel like eating.) “.   

We tend to focus on ‘what we could not do’, ‘what we should have done’, but make sure to look at the positive side of your achievements while you are on this theory, celebrate what you have done, maybe adding a piece of vegetable in a meal, or not having the second cookie;).  Writing a journal might encourage you to see the progress you’ve made (I enjoyed making some goals for the day and checking them off at the end of the day).
It also made a huge difference to have someone to hold accountable to while I was on the journey.  Find someone who is always there for you with no judgement, who can really listen to you, validate you, and sympathize you if necessary.  And you know, I am one of them.
Contact me if you need me.  I will be honored to support you.


Dieting Disorder

The article below was shared by one of my favourite health practitioners, Shelley Ugyan, who specializes in eating disorders.  It is a very interesting topic about ” Dieting Disorder”…
Aim for the health­i­est life you can en­joy, not just tol­er­ate
‘The Globe and Mail (BC Edition)’ – 2014-08-11

YONI FREED­HOFF Dr. Yoni Freed­hoff is an as­sis­tant pro­fes­sor of fam­ily medicine at the Univer­sity of Ot­tawa and the founder and med­i­cal di­rec­tor of the Bari­atric Med­i­cal In­sti­tute.
Health Advisor is a regular column where contributors share their knowledge in fields ranging from fitness to psychology, pediatrics to aging. Follow us @Globe_Health.

Would it surprise you to learn that according to a recent poll, more than 60 per cent of those who struggle with their weight have failed more than six weight-loss efforts? Amazingly, of those who have failed more than six times, a third of them report having failed more 20 times. An incredible 20 per cent report they’ve failed so many times that they’ve lost count!

Our shared weight-management failures aren’t a great surprise, however. Dieting is predicated on suffering and humans aren’t built to suffer in perpetuity. Yet we keep coming back for more. Every year there’s a new crop of New Year, New You books, each boasting its own set of draconian rules. Oh, you’ve tried a low-carb diet before, hmm, well perhaps this year you should give up dairy and grains. Been there and done that – maybe now eschewing sugar is the way to go.
Why, despite knowing better, do we blame ourselves when the nonsense fails?

Could it be a case of suffering from post-traumatic dieting disorder (PTDD)?
Because, really, what are modern-day diets, if not traumas? They’re generally some combination of undereating, overexercising or blind restriction. People on diets are trying to live the healthiest lives they can tolerate, rather than the healthiest lives they can enjoy. Merely tolerable lives, given food’s starring role as one of our lives’ most seminal pleasures, are understandably short-lived. Many who crash their weights down via overrestrictive diets are surprised when they regain not only what they’d lost, but more. In reality, though, it’s not a shocking outcome given the known negative impact an overrapid loss has on metabolism.
PTDD is not a formal diagnosis, but rather a shared constellation of symptoms that I’ve seen in my practice having worked with thousands of people trying to manage their weights and who have been through the diet trenches. These are people whose recurrent dieting has led to feelings of failure, shame, hopelessness, insecurity and sometimes even deep and abiding depression.

Their body images are often worse than when they started dieting in the first place and their relationships with food are anything but healthy – in many cases they feel threatened by the very foods they love most. They can also become socially withdrawn and their personalities can change, which in turn can negatively impact their closest relationships and lead some to believe themselves unworthy of love, marriage, intimacy, health or a normal lifestyle.
The triggers of PTDD lie not just with a person’s chosen diets, but with society as a whole and the hateful weight bias that permeates it. Whether it’s shows such as NBC’s The Biggest Loser, which teaches that scales measure not just pounds, but also success and self-worth, or whether it’s well-intentioned health professionals suggesting that unless a person reaches a particular weight their health is doomed. Celebrities’ weights are endlessly critiqued, with popular magazines shaming women, mostly, when they “pack on the pounds.”

Even a seven-year-old reads in the Harry Potter series J.K. Rowling’s brilliant but incredibly ugly portrayal of one family’s weight as a direct personification of their gluttonous, sloth-like evilness. Society’s overarching message is that thinness is attainable if a person wants it badly enough; failure is simply a reflection of personal weakness and laziness.

People don’t fail diets, diets fail people. Diets fail people because they regularly insist upon the adoption of lifestyles that are merely tolerable. The past 100 years of diets, regardless of their actual recommendations, have tended to be strictly prescriptive paths where dietary transgressions are tantamount to sins.
For dieters to succeed, their approaches can’t be traumatic, nor can we continue to perpetuate the narratives that suggest success is suffering and that scales are somehow able to measure the presence or absence of health. For diets not to be traumatic, we need to understand human nature and evolution; that in an environment where food, in all its succulent, sugary, aromatic, colourful, decadent glory surrounds and tempts us, it is hard to resist the siren call when we’re wired not to.
Rather than deny imperfections, we need to embrace them, and in turn dieters, instead of trying to live the healthiest lives they can tolerate, need to start cultivating the healthiest lives they can enjoy.

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Above is a message from my son, Ryo, who is 5:)
I’ve suffered from PTDD for a long time (too long!), and I am so glad that I don’t feel like I am its “victim” anymore. If you think you need to talk to someone, I am here for you, just email me, and we will have a free initial consultation.  Take a small step, and you will be surprised to see how MEGA changes you can make for your life.

Institution of Integrative Nutrition (IIN)

I am currently aiming to be a certified Health Coach, attending at Institution for Integrative Nutrition (IIN), where I learn more than 100 different dietary theories, from the traditional to the modern, Eastern to Western, popular to esoteric.

I hope to better serve my current and future clients for their healthier and happier lives by focusing on Bio-Individuality (meaning, I recognize that there’s no one-size-fits-all diet – each person is a unique individual with highly individualized nutritional requirements, considering their gender, age, ancestors, childhood foods , and more to be considered), and Primary Food (healthy relationships, regular physical activity, a fulfilling career and a spiritual practice).

I have been able to consult clients since August 2014, and some spaces are still available for a FREE 50min-initial-consultation.
Email me for your life changing consultation.

Also, if you are interested in taking the program at IIN, I will be more than happy to answer some questions you may have, and/or assist your enrolling.

1 minute rule

My second child and first daughter, Maya Katherine Laird has arrived on February 15, 2013.  She has been such a wonderful addition to our family.

Now that we have two kids with no relatives we can count on, things can be pretty hectic, especially around the house.  So, I have established a “1 minute rule” and it has been working quite nicely.

The principle is VERY simple.  If there is anything that needs to be done anyway, and it can be done within a minute, do it NOW.  You think it won’t make any big difference in your daily life, but stop there, and try it once for me.
For example, I can wash the dishes after the breakfast within a minute, so that, I do not have to see the mess when I come home after dropping off my son at his daycare.  And it feels a lot cleaner (visually and mentally!) and makes you want to be more productive.

I think you will be surprised to find out how your day can be efficient by following the simple rule:)

Prenatal Multi-vitamin

For my two pregnancy, I have suffered decent morning sickness during the first trimester.
Taking muti-vitamin was a challenge as well, but “multivitamin easymulti prenatal from PLATINUM” worked really well, probably thanks to the EPA and DHA, providing a coating role for the stomach.

If you are having a hard time intaking a multi-vitamin (provided you need to take one), you might want to give it a try.  You should be able to find it at any health food stores.  It is a bit pricy than the ones you can find at a drugstore, but I think it was worth buying for me.

Orange juice and Fragrance

“When you strip the juice of oxygen, you also strip it of flavour-providing chemicals, natural chemicals to the orange juice, so the juice companies then hire flavour and fragrance companies — the same ones that make high-end perfumes and colognes — to manufacture flavour packs to put back into the juice to make it taste fresh”

Here is the whole article and this is why we try our best only to drink home-made orange juice!  If your home-made oj is too sour, hint of honey (great for boosting immunity) will make a good difference!

Image is taken from Amber Anderson.

Fresh Garlic Tips

I love buying fresh garlic, but I am not a big fan of dealing with peeling part.  And then, I found some useful tips below!

1) To peel garlic, pour hot water over cloves or put in microwave 5 seconds, then pull skins off with a paring knife.

2) The longer you cook garlic, the milder it becomes.  Do not burn.
Burned garlic will have a bitter taste.

3) Store garlic bulbs in a cool, dry, well ventilated place.
Do not refrigerate or store in a plastic bag.

4) Buy garlic that is plump and firm with papery outer sheath intact.
Avoid garlic that is soft, spongy, moldy or shriveled.

Referred by Christopher Ranch.